It is quite a typical
situation: a husband comes home after work, but his wife does not pay attention
to whether he came or not. She is busy in the kitchen, she pills the vegetables or washes the dishes. One can hear only the words like, “You have come
already? Finished your work? Don’t you need to go somewhere else? Do you really have to go home at once?”
It does not
matter whether the husband is at home or not. The wife pretends as if he did
not exist at all. He is worthless in her
eyes. The man behaves the same way towards the woman. We all like to be
appreciated. We all need to be loved and be meaningful for others.
When someone
says you “well done”, you feel enlightened and understands that everything is
fine. You keep working in the same spirit. This is not about egoism, but it is
a good reason, which gives you strength to keep going with it.
The wife goes
to a hairdresser, she has her hair done up and colored, she looks after
herself. Then she comes home, but her husband is indifferent just as before.
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| Archimandrite Andrew (Konanos) |
Next day she
goes to work and meets a male colleague in the office, who says, “It is a
pleasure to look at you, your hair is nice. I like your new image!” Her husband
did not notice that, while a stranger did.
A familiar
pattern, isn’t it?
Why did not the
husband notice? For whom did she do that? For whom did she become even
more beautiful? For you. But you do not understand.
A woman told me
once: “When my husband is watching sports, he doesn’t pay attention to what’s
around him. At this time, there is no one else in the world for him. He wouldn’t
notice me even if I enter the room on a horse wearing my burning with fire hair
down. While watching he can’t look at me for a second. There is nothing else
for him. Just as if I didn’t exist.”
A human’s soul
is like a tiny flower or a piece of glass jewelry, which we need to preserve
and feed.
Our children
need the same care. Try to communicate with your children more often. People ask why
do children always hurry to go in the street. You know why? Because when their
friends see them, they say, “Hi, friend!” This is it.
But you do not
speak to your child like this. You only say, “You are useless. You will be an
illiterate. You don’t keep pace with life. Loser. We pay for your life and your
school, and you just do nothing. You waste your time. We fell sick because of
you. You are breaking us…”
Listen to me!
Show him some reward. We do not look after our children and then we say, “Why
doesn’t my child love me? Why does he run away when he sees me? Why does he
choose various parties, why does he hurry to spend time with friends, why does
he visit other people?” You ask why? Because people love them there as they
can.
Of course, you
love your child, but you do not show this. It is not only about love but also
about showing your attitude. We all love. In fact, we show our love only
towards the dead, standing near the grave.
Only there you
can see all these emotions, tears and feelings. While your beloved one is
alive, you demand to obey the rules. But the he passes away, and you feel pain
because of the loss. But it is too late.
Love each
other, watch each other, preserve your life and love. Do not be afraid to show
it.
From the book
by Archimandrite Andrew (Konanos),
“There are certain difficulties in the
marriage…”
Source: http://pravlife.org/content/arh-andrey-konanos-poprobuyte-sdelat-eto-i-schaste-pridet-v-vash-dom
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