It’s
unfortunate when we become so focused on the symptoms of a problem that we
ignore its underlying causes. Some
Christian rhetoric on same-sex marriage has done precisely that and has failed
as a result to transcend the dynamics of conventional partisan politics. Instead of illuminating the unique glory of
the life-giving union of husband and wife as an icon of the Holy Trinity and of
the salvation of the world, the
defenders of traditional marriage often merely skim the surface of public
morality. The fundamental problem isn’t
that increasing numbers of Americans approve of same-sex marriage; it’s that
many Christians and others have forgotten the holiness and unique vocation of
the man-woman relationship. Once we lose
that key link, the possibility of thinking coherently—and faithfully– about
human sexuality is gone.
In order
to speak with integrity on marriage and family issues, we need first to take a
sober look at the failure of the churches to equip our members to embody
chastity and sexual purity, and thus to be a witness of holiness in stark
contrast to the moral corruption so pervasive in our culture and world. Especially since the dawn of the sexual
revolution, Christians have too often turned a blind eye to promiscuity,
pre-marital sex, serial divorce and remarriage, and a hedonistic culture that
excuses all things in the name of an individual’s pleasure and self-defined
happiness. No wonder so many Americans
seem to dismiss opposition to same-sex marriage as self-righteous hypocrisy and
arbitrary discrimination. Those who
tolerate—and at times even seem to condone—sex and cohabitation for unmarried
men and women have little standing to criticize the prospect of legal sanction
for gay unions. If there is no visible
difference between how Christians and others handle these crucial life-shaping
matters, why should anyone take seriously what we have to say? If we do not call heterosexuals to holiness,
why all the bother about the much smaller population of homosexuals?
Likewise,
we misdirect our energies when we speak of civil marriage in contemporary
America as though it were identical to Christian marriage. Something accomplished before a justice of
the peace and recorded at the court house impacts taxes, inheritance, and other
legal matters, but cannot turn water into wine as a sign of the Kingdom of
God. Holy matrimony does not simply
grant civil sanction to the broken union of Adam and Eve, but heals and blesses
their common life as a sign of the relationship between Christ and the Church. It is a calling, not a right, for anyone. Man
and woman wear the crowns of the Kingdom as their love for one another finds
its true fulfillment in the Lord. God
created us male and female in the divine image and likeness, giving
opposite-sex couples the unique ability to bring forth new life from their own
bodies out of love for one another.
Through this blessed union, parents and children become an image of the
Holy Trinity, sharing a union of love that binds them together and enables them
to learn to love Christ in one another.
By the restoration of the primal unity of male and female in God,
Christian marriage becomes a sign of the salvation not merely of two
individuals, but of all humanity and of the creation itself. Perhaps that is why our Savior so often used
the image of a wedding feast for the Kingdom of God.
Eastern
Orthodox Christianity believes that man and woman are not interchangeable
bundles of individual rights; instead, the two sexes play complementary roles
in our common salvation. Jesus Christ
and the Theotokos, the apostles and the myrrh bearing women, St. Macrina with
her brothers Sts. Basil and Gregory, and so many other examples from Scripture,
hymnody, icons, and the saints demonstrate the abiding mystery of the
male-female distinction and relationship in our pursuit of theosis. The same God who creates us as male and
female saves us in relationship to one another.
Instead of abandoning biological distinctions as though our bodies were
irrelevant and the two sexes identical, we look to the Lord, His Mother, and
ongoing generations of holy men and women to teach us how to live faithfully in
relation to one another as male and female.
We deal here with a great mystery, as the Logos who spoke the world into
existence also made us man and woman in the divine image. The male Son rose from the dead and ascended
into heaven; and the female Mother who bore Him followed into the Kingdom at
her Dormition. Even in the world to
come, the distinction of man and woman will remain.
No, God
does not call everyone to marriage, not even all heterosexuals. Yes, He invites everyone to holiness;
preserving sexual intimacy for the blessed state of marriage between a man and
a woman is part of that calling, as the Church has taught consistently for two
thousand years. Nonetheless, holy
people have—and continue to—struggle with temptations of all kinds. Through fasting and other forms of
self-denial, nourishment by the Holy Mysteries of the Church, participation in
healthy friendships and communities, and sincere confession and repentance when
we stumble, all of us– regardless of sexual inclinations—find strength and
healing to press forward to the high calling that is ours in Christ Jesus. The nature of one’s particular temptations is
irrelevant; the point is to turn away from them and live faithfully.
Christian
witness on these matters faces serious cultural challenges today. One hears that the growing support for
same-sex marriage reflects positive portraits of homosexuals on both the small
and the large screen, as well as the experience of knowing friends and family
members who are gay. Straight people are
apparently marrying at declining rates, while many gay couples enthusiastically
seek legal recognition of their unions.
Some people seem to be more impressed by the commitment of same-sex
partners to one another than by that of the married couples they know. Appeals to the equal rights of individuals
to the benefits of marriage, however defined, clinch the argument for many.
Until
very recently, of course, no culture or world religion recognized same-sex
relationships as holy, or even legal, matrimony. From the perspective of
Orthodox Christianity the revisionist claims distort the truth about what it
means to be man and a woman in God’s image and likeness. They endorse sexual expression apart from the
loving, covenanted unity of male-female difference that alone is blessed to
bring forth new life. They respond to
the desires of individuals in terms of the categories of the corrupt world, not
of the struggle of disciplining oneself in order to respond more fully to the
divine eros. Though Christian and civil
marriage are not identical, Orthodoxy will not embrace society’s official
redefinition of the fundamental nature of marriage contrary to what God has
established from the origins of the human race.
The Church cannot bless same-sex unions as marriages, for that is not
what they are. Sacraments restore
persons and their relationships according to God’s original intention for us to
be like Him; and He created us male and female in His image toward the end of
our salvation.
Contrary
to popular assumptions, this stance on marriage does not entail that we should
condemn, judge, or shun people who are in intimate relationships with members
of the same sex. Orthodox priests
concern themselves only with the sexual and other sins named in confession or
with the very rare scandalous situation that has to be addressed in the
parish. And confession is not about
condemnation, but forgiveness, healing, and growth, regardless of the sin
confessed. Like the rest of us, those
who struggle with same-sex attraction need guidance and support throughout
their lives as they progress in holiness.
Yes, all really are called to enter into the holiness of God, to become saints.
A Church that honors King David, Photini, Moses the Black, and Mary of Egypt
can ask no less. Like the Samaritan
woman, all who suffer disordered sexual passions are more likely to respond to
genuine expressions of compassion and respect that point them toward the living
water that satisfies at a level deeper than physical desire. Yes, the Church must speak the truth about
sexuality, but also about pride, self-righteous judgment, hatred, and gossip. And given the Lord’s definition of adultery
in the Sermon on the Mount, none of us is in the position to look down upon
others for sexual sin. After all, who
doesn’t have disordered desires? And the
vast majority of sexual sin is surely between people of opposite sex. We must be very careful with our words.
In our
current cultural context, the witness of true Christian marriage simply must
become visible, vibrant, and robust, if it is to be taken seriously by
mainstream culture. All the more is our
need to be vigilant in our parishes and families, in our friendships and
neighborhoods and schools, in our choices of entertainment and attire, to form
ourselves in chastity both in our bodily actions and the thoughts of our
hearts. Of course, we never do that alone,
but in communion with the Church and with the support of fellow strugglers who
want to participate more fully in the divine nature.
The early
Christians impressed even the pagan Romans with their care for the dying and
their rescue of exposed infants. It’s
time for the current generation of Christians to impress our society with the
chaste love of man and woman as a sign of God’s covenantal fidelity in Jesus
Christ. There is no better response to
the challenges posed by the ongoing sexual revolution than the living icon of
Christian marriage—of Adam and Eve healed and blessed as they wear the crowns
of the Kingdom and bring new persons into the world out of their love for one
another. That’s how God intends life to
go on in His good creation. It’s
precisely the differences between male and female that make the union of
marriage life-giving, complementary, and a path to salvation. True marriage manifests the healing of our
humanity in the image of God as man and woman.
Our challenge is not only to say words about marriage, but to live them
out in ways that draw others to Christ and His Church. That’s the most fundamental political action
of the Christian community: to embody a
life that conquers death, that heals our broken, corrupt humanity—body and
soul, male and female. If we do that,
we will address not just the symptoms of the moral decay of our society, but
also its underlying causes.
By Fr. Philip LeMasters
Source: https://blogs.ancientfaith.com/easternchristianinsights/2012/06/02/male-and-female-in-gods-image/
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